YL oils as peace-keeping tools

by Amy J. Williams

(Author’s Note: oil tips are for personal use and my own experience to share…)

I love working with couples in therapy. Admittedly many couples wait until things are really bad before they break down and come to therapy. By then there’s so much baggage, it’s a challenge to unload it.

It’s possible though. I often encourage couples to commit to having the best relationship possible by focusing on their own work and releasing the outcome of ‘together or apart.’ Valor essential oil is a great start… helping with the courage to face our fears and helping us be strong enough to be challenged to grow!

I haven’t been called to negotiate peace in the Middle East (yet). But anytime I can help two fighting people who “love” each other get along better, I consider it my contribution to the peace cause. I’ve benefitted from applying Release essential oil over the liver and Forgiveness on the belly button to help the “letting go and moving on” process ~ remember to inhale the leftover oils on your hands too!

Interestingly, I have struggled for much of my personal life with my own relationships. Often those closest to me will use my job as a therapist to put me down. “Who are you to help people?” “If only people really knew you…”

And what I can say is…

I am not my own therapist.

I am not perfect.

I am Amy.

And it is here where I apply the great blends Highest Potential, Magnify Your Purpose, Believe… Hey, I need all the help I can get.

Now I do seek to be self-aware. I seek being accountable. I seek knowing my blind spots and shedding the light of self-love on them. Clarity and Joy are a great combo here. Love these blends to clear out stinkin’ thinkin’ and grab my happiness!

Relationships can take focus and effort. But I have to say after multiple failed ones and plenty of my own therapy and life coaching, I don’t think relationships are meant to be so hard.

Here’s how I know this…

I’m getting to experience it.

After continually releasing all kinds of relationships that have been stressful and painful, I can say today I don’t have any that are that way. I have close relationships where people who say they love me actually do want my good. I have close relationships where if we disagree they don’t ignore me for days. I have close relationships where people do their own growth work and don’t play victim or persecutor.

Now let me say that anything I accuse, I have likely also done. And I admit that.

And I’ve changed and I’m changing that…

Because I want to and I can.

Acceptance essential oil and the YL Feelings Kit have been super helpful tools to help me shift out of old thought patterns.

Unless you’re blessed with getting hit by the lucky stick or you have profound wisdom, it seems most of us have some rocky, challenging relationships before we find the good ones.

Maybe that’s because we need to do our own growth work to decide~ what we will put up with and what we won’t. Yes there is an oil Common Sense, and I need it frequently!!

My most important relationship is the one I have with me. The me-me relationship sets the tone for all other relationship vibes. When our self-care is good and we commit to self-love, the good news is…

Our frequency is going up! Wow You!

The best couple’s therapy, in my humble opinion, is when each person focuses on healing and working on their own self ~ and accepting the other person. Why do we claim we love someone and want to twist their arm to change?

I think of the song “Let there be peace on Earth and let it begin with me…”

This is so true. Let it begin with me…

Of course, Peace and Calming and Stress Away fit well here! They smell great and offer aromatic harmony ~ inside and out.

Me in a good relationship with me! I’m signing that peace treaty!! It’s all about transformation…. the process and the oil blend :) Bring it on! And by now I smell great too!

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Aromatherapy helps with change and loss

by Amy J. Williams

Often change involves loss. I know this personally and from clients I work with.

I’ve been really aware this week of what an honor it is to sit with someone as they work through their life… their story. For me, therapy is foremost about creating a non-judgemental space that allows someone to be who they really are and to say and experience what they feel and hopefully begin to work through it.

I recently sat with someone as they experienced a life change they did not want. Sensing the monumental-ness of the moment, I was humbled.

Sometimes just quiet presence is all I can offer. No words fit. And platitudes demean their process.

Change… Yay! Change… Argh!

Often what seems so distressing later shows to have been a blessing. But that knowing can’t be guaranteed or rushed.

While grieving can be attachment to what we want (that we aren’t getting), and there are some helpful perspectives and tools to lighten and shift the grieving process…

It’s still important to just accept where we are and to care ~ for ourselves.

Aromatherapy and essential oils are great tools for self-care. Valor blend has helped reduce my anxiety. Young Living’s Feelings Kit has amazing oils that help with the mind-body shift going on as the change process occurs. White Anjelica smells fabulous and is great for uplifting and feelings of protection.

Even as we change, and

others change…

there’s the potential to stay connected to our highest self, our divine consciousness nature ~

where it’s all good no matter what seems to change. I’m so grateful for the support of these uplifting aromatic tools, as well as the love of good friends, as I experience life’s changes!

Photo: whether it’s the loss of pets or people through death or divorce… or job changes… there are great essential oil tools to help uplift our physical and emotional health. image

YL Products help shift burnt out burning passion

by Amy Jane Williams

“People suffer because they are caught in their views. As soon as we release those views, we are free and we don’t suffer anymore.”

~ Thich Nhat Hanh

It’s been a few years ago. But I got seriously burnt out in my job. I was working in an office where they wanted you to see 6 people a day and I felt pressure to keep up the numbers.

For many years I had breezed along. I loved what I did. But as I grew, so did my need for spaciousness and self-determination. And burn out was my clue that change was necessary.

Getting me out of that situation, however, was like kicking a baby out of the nest. I wasn’t quite a baby… although maybe I was a baby entrepreneur/adventurer.

Thankfully I had a friend who heard the Divine calling to help me transition at a time when my nervous system was shot and I had regular panic attacks. I would gag in the morning when I brushed my teeth from the anxiety I felt in my stomach.

At the time I had just been introduced to Young Living products. The prolonged stress has left my body acidic. And an acidic body is more prone to dis-ease.

I started using essential oils, then added some supplements. Valor, Stress Away, Sulfurzynes…

When the body is more acidic it can take longer to heal. But I believed in plant-based tools and kept using them.

I do love helping people ~ which really involves creating a safe space, listening and offering tools and practices and new thoughts. What a blessing to get to share essential oils and YL and all I’ve learned about creating the life I want with others who want to do the same in their own unique way.

Now I get to do that to my own schedule.

Today, I am free… in my heart.

I’ve spent two days doing taxes ~ fairly happily, no joke!

I’ve answered a bunch of questions via texting on essential oils.

I get to have a beautiful ‘brick and mortar’ office and a mobile office too…

There’s so much more goodness too!

But what changed all this was me. Sometimes I’m afraid to say that because so many people helped me, invested in me.

Yet in the end, only I stood center stage in my own story and decided to exit stage left and take a new path.

I used to be afraid of not having decent health insurance.

Then I decided I didn’t want to die unhappy with insurance. I was willing to do what I wanted even if I didn’t have insurance or it wasn’t great coverage.

I used to think how great it was to have a 35 hour work week even if it did make me sick.

Now I work triple that time and I don’t feel like I’m working at all. I don’t need a sabbatical because it feels like I’m already on one.

No matter how much therapy we have or how many books we read… It’s all preparation for this…

just doing it!

Blaming, dawdling, procrastinating… I’ve done them all. Honestly, I’m not sure I could’ve made my changes any sooner than I did. I’ve accepted that too.

But I’m glad I did take the leap. And I am going to keep it up.

Every day in every way I am freer and freer… To be me. Now the burning feeling I have is passion, not burn out!!

Sizzle!!

Need to remove emotional blocks?

Idaho Blue Spruce, Valor, Cypress, Frankincense… there are so many wonderful oils and supplements. Ningxia Red, Omegagize… You are worth it!

Photo: Soaring sycamores = how I feel!! Princeton INimage

Healing issues related to your family by Amy J. Williams

IMG_1609If there’s one area where aromatherapy and essential oils can help… it’s dealing with family.  This doesn’t mean family is a bad thing, but often emotions get aroused over issues related to our childhood and past.  When we meet someone for the first time, they often ask what work we do… closely followed by where are you from?

Where are you from? We often spout off a city or a state, but where we’re from is so much more than that. We each have a lineage… a line of people that stretches back to who knows when. And that line of people affects us more than we realize!

When someone dear to me was reunited with their dad after a few decades, it was uncanny the similarities between the two. All kinds of idiosyncrasies, habits, thought forms were similar between the two who were separated when my friend was a baby. WOW!

The environment and conditions you grow up in matters.  But the memory stored in your gene pool is pretty profound too.  I’ve been so thankful to make corrections in physical and emotional patterns that feel locked in my cells… with the use of aromatherapy and essential oils.  Using aromatherapy by itself is a powerful mood shifter.  But when I combine it with affirmation and accupressure… WOW!

In my work as a therapist, I watch people use essential oils and affirmation to profoundly change long-help patterns that weren’t serving their well-being.  It’s so exciting.  Most importantly, I’ve used this myself.  You can start as basic as you want – with just frankincense and peppermint to inhale and find a new, better thought.  The Feelings Kit is superb, and I’ve gone through it a few times.  Now, there are great Freedom kits to help people shift old patterns.

Some people are really into genealogy. Others don’t give their lineage a second thought. I’m here to say: Pay attention. Observe your family. Ask questions about your family’s history while the people who lived it are still alive to tell it.

History doesn’t define us. But it’s a great clue. What do you need liberated from? What blessings will you carry forward. There’s a lot encoded in your cellular memory. It’s not who you are… but it does run your life more than you realize. Or at least that seems to be true from what I observe in others and experience myself.  Use aromatherapy and essential oils as great tools to free yourself from the past in a profound way!

 

Photo:  Happy to be in the family with my sons, Andrew and Adlai!

 

Releasing Regrets YL Style by Amy J Williams

When I was in college, Dr. Paarlberg and his wife Eva became my friends. He was an agriculture professor at Purdue and an extraordinary man.  I learned some valuable principles from him.  One involved regrets…  He’s one of the very few people I’ve known who said they had no regrets over their past. While Dr. Paarlberg was the most salt of the earth intellectual I had known, I doubt that he was perfect or that his past life had been so. But he was adamant that regrets served no purpose.  Lately, I’ve been pondering regrets…  When I look back on my life with compassion, I know that for where I was at the time… I did do the best I could.  I’m not quite where Dr. Paarlberg was of having no regrets.  But I see how my life experiences contributed to my life’s growth and have helped me understand myself and others.  But knowing that doesn’t always mean I feel better. Sometimes I miss people, second guess myself, or beat myself up over past transgressions.  Therapy, life coaching, yoga, spiritual direction have helped… and aromatherapy!  The Young Living Feelings Kit has been a life changer – allowing me to apply essential oils to myself. The benefit was two-fold. First, I was tuning in to my own self and needs and making an effort to balance myself. Second, I was using wonderful plant-based medicinal tools to help me.   Oh the Valor, Harmony, Release, Forgiveness, Present Time and Inner Child!  Many times I’ve used the whole protocol. At other times just Release on my liver and Forgiveness on my belly button.  Other great releasing and clearing oils: White Anjelica, Acceptance, Hope, Idaho Blue Spruce, Gathering…  Thankful for the past, I release it continually to grow and to be the best expression of me I can be… forgiving others and self… Thank you YL for helping!!

Aromatherapy and Self Love by Amy J. Williams

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Over the past several years, I became intimately connected with my nervous system. Of course, my nervous system was with me since birth. I just ignored it. Until two friends appeared – anxiety and panic attacks. Friends?!? There was a time I would never consider these two friends. In fact, I would have begged for their parting. And like all good friends, they stayed with me… Until I learned the lesson I needed to learn from them. At the time, many things in my life felt distressing. I couldn’t quite find peace in my personal or professional life. As a therapist, I was seeing 25 plus clients a week. For years that seemed to work… and then it didn’t! At that point, I’d been ignoring my body for some time. And my nervous system was letting me know it. I couldn’t breathe and I constantly felt like an elephant was sitting on my chest!

I personally did not want to take prescription meds. And even though my budget was not grand, I committed to my own therapy and to better food and to Young Living products. Because I had ignored my body’s signals for so long, it took a awhile for me to get balanced. But I made a firm commitment to befriend myself and to treat myself with respect. Sometimes when I felt so physically ill and emotionally agitated and frazzled, I just hung on to the idea of just being my own friend. I’d once read where Kris Carr (author of Crazy Sexy Cancer) said your life’s purpose is just to love yourself – whatever that means. I held on to that too. I struggled at times in believing oils or life coaching would help me AND also I did not give up. I had so many good friends too who loved me:)

But deep inside I kept up – eating less sugar and more healthy foods, walking, inhaling and applying oils.

And then that thing happened that I teach in therapy. One day the page turned… I felt better. It was rocky for awhile, and I even have moments now where the anxiety pops up. But I’m committed to my self, to love my self. And why not? It’s so much better that way! Good bye old friends anxiety and panic attacks! Hello awareness, better choices and some great smelling friends!

Releasing Regrets YL Style by Amy J Williams

When I was in college, Dr. Paarlberg and his wife Eva became my friends. He was an agriculture professor at Purdue and an extraordinary man.

I learned some valuable principles from him. One involved regrets…

He’s one of the very few people I’ve known who said they had no regrets over their past. While Dr. Paarlberg was the most salt of the earth intellectual I had known, I doubt that he was perfect or that his past life had been so. But he was adamant that regrets served no purpose.

Lately, I’ve been pondering regrets…
When I look back on my life with compassion, I know that for where I was at the time… I did do the best I could. I’m not quite where Dr. Paarlberg was of having no regrets. But I see how my life experiences contributed to my life’s growth and have helped me understand myself and others.

But knowing that doesn’t always mean I feel better. Sometimes I miss people, second guess myself, or beat myself up over past transgressions.

Therapy, life coaching, yoga, spiritual direction have helped… and aromatherapy!

The Young Living Feelings Kit has been a life changer – allowing me to apply essential oils to myself. The benefit was two-fold. First, I was tuning in to my own self and needs and making an effort to balance myself. Second, I was using wonderful plant-based medicinal tools to help me.

Oh the Valor, Harmony, Release, Forgiveness, Present Time and Inner Child! Many times I’ve used the whole protocol. At other times just Release on my liver and Forgiveness on my belly button.

Other great releasing and clearing oils: White Anjelica, Acceptance, Hope, Idaho Blue Spruce, Gathering…

Where it starts... Thank you YL!

Where it starts… Thank you YL!

Thankful for the past, I release it continually to grow and to be the best expression of me I can be… forgiving others and self… Thank you YL for helping!!

Terrible Tues-day Healing Life’s Troubles with Aromatherapy and Essential Oils by Amy J Williams

Parents talk about the terrible twos – that time in a child’s development when they sass back, rebel, have temper tantrums and leave parents teetering on the edge of a question:

“Will my child continue this behavior and turn out to be a horrible acting adult or is it normal toddler behavior?”

As I sat with two friends at the park yesterday, we pondered this question. I think we figured it out…

And I’m leaving you in the lurch for that answer to pose another dilemma…

What about parents who act like they’re in the terrible twos?

It was a stunningly beautiful fall midday as we three friends planned how to share essential oils with mothers waiting to give birth and with new parents caring for their freshly delivered babies. Then, in the middle of our managing the children in our own midst and planning this class, a storm moved in. The storm was an angry mother.

The mother had sat down next to us a few minutes earlier and nicely asked how old my friend’s child was. The children were playing together and then (enter lightning and thunder), the mom flipped out.

Her recently turned three year old needed to use the bathroom. She began yelling. Her child began crying. We sat with our heads actually down – unsure of what to do. The uplifted vibrational feel of our sunny day in the park was smothered with a storm front that covered us.

I am pretty confident I had acted like this before. My children will give testimony to it. Decades earlier, I could have been set off by a glass of spilt milk or some other mild problem. Decades later, I still occasionally apologize for the short fuse and poor parenting skills I had had.

And even at the time I was acting like a parent in the terrible twos, I knew better.  Part of what concerned me in our park scenario was the openness the mom displayed in yelling, blaming and putting down her child.

Let me quickly interject that I do NOT think I was any better for being more discreet in my poor parenting skills – and only flipping out at home.

Yet, what I did have was knowledge:

I knew that if I didn’t know better how to handle these parenting struggles… I could know better. And so I marched myself to therapy.

When I personally watched the scenario unfold in front of me, I remembered how we can have long-held patterns and blind spots and sometimes not even see them ourselves.

And, that’s one reason I love sharing aromatherapy and essential oils. They are great mood changers, and I’ve found them helpful in releasing old patterns – when combined with therapy and even when not.

I didn’t rush over to offer Peace and Calming, but I could have. Next time, maybe I will. After all, I know what it feels like to be frustrated, stuck, angry, overwhelmed… a terrible two in an adult body!!  And I also know how great it feels to grow up:)

Growing Your Personal Wealth by Amy Williams

10624999_10152859747837806_3562592658865837872_nI’ve spent the last three years intensively investing in myself – my healing and growth. In the process, I’ve shed outdated, not so useful ideas and incorporated new, effective thoughts and habits. I’m not perfect, but what I am is happier and supporting myself doing things I love.

Cynthia Chilton Barrett has been developing some great tools to help all of us share Young Living easier and create income for ourselves.

If you love YL and you want to have more Ben Franklin’s in your pocket, we will teach you everything we know… and for free. 

Why? Because a lot of people have graciously helped us and we want to help others. Of course, it’s also part of our YL business… an enterprise we love!

It’s the beginning of November! Schedule phone coaching with me, ask for what you need and want, set goals geared towards your dreams!

The key s action – find out how to grow yourself with principles that uplift every part of your life!!

Keeping Your Cool With Stress Away by Cynthia Barrett

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Well, it has happened again.  Last night, I realized I have not taken care of the task of preparing for the holiday weekend.  Our three children are old enough to know that the Easter Bunny is supported almost solely by their parents, so it may not seem like a big deal to skip a year this time around to save everybody (meaning, me) a bit of trouble.  However, our children have opted into playing what we call “The Game”.  This game is the silent understanding and agreement that the Easter Bunny is essentially me and that as long as they play The Game and expect a basket full of colored grass, candy and something new and (hopefully) cool,  the “Easter Bunny” will provide. The Game came about as result of our two oldest children being told by our youngest and most practical child that all holiday icons (Santa Claus,  Easter Bunny, etc.) are, indeed, my husband and I. So, a family discussion of the facts-of-holidays followed and the gig was up.  We all decided that holidays are fun and part of the fun, aside from the vacation from school and family time, is the tradition that each holiday holds. Thus, the The Game was created, agreed upon and commenced and it has been played ever since. . . But, I have digressed.

 

The point of this blog is that early this morning, after dropping everyone at school or the bus, I made a last minute dash to my old get-it-done-quick standby. . .Target.  This morning the place was packed! I guess I am not the only one that the holiday sprung up and surprised this year.  So, I am making my way through the seasonal section, when I hear a child crying on the other aisle and the mother’s response was tense with anger and frustration when she said “Get back in the cart and stay there!” My first response when I hear anger from a parent toward a small child is always the same: a sick feeling in my stomach.  This sick feeling is not created by anger at the parent or fear for the child’s safety, which, arguably, it may well ought be.  The sick feeling comes from the last lingerings of a memory of losing my cool in a similar situation with one or all of our children when they were young.  Yuck! I don’t like revisiting that memory. Yet, I know, I am not alone.

 

Mothering is a full time job and can be stressful at times. Then add in the necessities and responsibilities of living an adult life and it seems as if it is impossible to relax and stay calm when our children knowingly or unknowing push our “hot” buttons. And just to say what I imagine some of you are out there thinking: they always seem to push the “hot” buttons when the pressure is at a peak level.  It often feels as if they know it is the very worst time to “act up”, which only escalates the possibility of losing our mothering cool.  Well, I am here to tell you their is a reason those peak pressure times are the hardest times to maintain our cool. It is all in our biology.  It is part of how are bodies are made to function.

 

We have a normal physiological response to events that make us feel threaten or upset our balance in some way.  This is called the stress response (aka fight-or-flight response) and it is our body’s way of protecting us and in an emergency, can save your life or your child’s life by giving you extra strength and energy.  The problem is that when a person senses danger or a feeling of imbalance, the body does not know the difference between real or imagined dangerSo, you could be feeling out of balance, i. e. nervous or anxious about a report at work that is due the next day, then, that night your child is awake most of the night with an upset stomach.  Now, it is today, the day report is due, and you are lacking a good night’s sleep.  Not one of the above circumstances is life threatening, but the body perceives the out-of-balance effect and says: this is a time to start the physiological chain of events to help protect you from danger. The result is the stress response, which is meant to make us react quickly, without thinking what we are doing or saying–not the best frame of mind to be in when keeping our mothering cool is necessary.  So, how do you manage life and biology to keep the stress response on deck, and only on deck, for times of real danger?  First, check out this website for ways to manage stress. Next, know that it is important to know what triggers a stress response in you. Once you know what your triggers are use methods that reverse the stress response and liberally.

 

The method I use and that works, for me, is aromatherapy.  In a matter of 22 seconds, a moment of incredible tension and stress can be relieved, allowing me to a pause and respond with intention rather than tension. The example I give others when I talk about how fast and effective aromatherapy can be is the day I was driving with our “tweenage” daughter. It had been a particularly stressful day and during our talk, a sensitive topic came up and next thing I knew she had unleashed a stream of tears and insults.  Thank goodness for the stoplight that road delivered!  I reached in my purse and pulled out StressAway blend, applied it to my wrists and neck and took a deep breath.  As the light turned green, I knew I could handle anything.  About 30 seconds later, my daughter, who had been crying, took a deep breath and started laughing! She then said she didn’t know what was wrong with her and made a joke about crazy hormones.  We both started laughing at her joke.  I pulled over and gave her a hug!  Can you guess which oil I make room for in my purse to have on hand now that I have two teenagers and a “tweenager”? That’s right StressAway!

 

Are you wondering what happen to the child and mother at Target this morning? Well, I’ll tell you.  I grabbed my StressAway blend, applied it generously, scooted to the next aisle where the mother and child were and slowly, very slowly passed them so as to allow a little “guerrilla aromatherapy” to occur.  By the time I was in the next aisle, child and mother were quietly talking about the Easter items on the shelves.

Enjoy :)

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